She’ll let you in her house
If you come knockin’ late at night
She’ll let you in her mouth
If the words you say are right
If you pay the price
She’ll let you deep inside
But there’s a secret garden she hides
She’ll let you in her car
To go drivin’ round
She’ll let you into the parts of herself
That’ll bring you down
She’ll let you in her heart
If you got a hammer and a vise
But into her secret garden, don’t think twice
You’ve gone a million miles
How far’d you get
To that place where you can’t remember
And you can’t forget
She’ll lead you down a path
There’ll be tenderness in the air
She’ll let you come just far enough
So you know she’s really there
She’ll look at you and smile
And her eyes will say
She’s got a secret garden
Where everything you want
Where everything you need
Will always stay
A million miles away
I rediscovered that song after watching Jerry Maguire this weekend. Yes, I’m a sucker for a romantic story, that will make me cry. It’s Thursday, one day closer to the weekend. Let’s ramble, fuss, and debate. Share you random thoughts or interesting news stories.
October 2, 2008 at 9:20 am
Hello all,
I was reading the “Let a Man be a Man” post and I have some sharing to do. It think it’s better done here where most people will be hanging out today.
It’s good that we can see our own faults and the faults of others like us. I commend and expect people to at some point in time, figure out how their actions/reactions affect the world around them and/or the people in their lives.
I’m self-conscious. More times than not, my actions are “under review” and I analyze whether things went down as they seem to appear. I value people who find themselves doing this as well. (I’d rather them find their faults than for me to be the only one that sees them.)
As far as the woman in her 3rd marriage who wants to put her husband out because he doesn’t pay any bills, I wonder what would she expect him to do if she wasn’t paying any bills? Did they not take the same vows? (For richer or poorer…)
This brings me to the main issue that’s on my mind right now. What’s the point of getting married? Obviously it seems like those vows don’t mean much afterwards, so why should we sign a legally binding contract that states we’re together and forsaking all others if that’s not really what we mean….unconditionally.
My mom was asking me yesterday, “How are you going to get married if you spend your whole Saturday at home?” She went on to say that you’ll get married in your lifetime…because there are women looking for you. At the same time, I’m thinking to myself, I’m the one that’s going to be proposing and if I don’t see the point/value of getting married (other than having kids/family unit of my own) who is to say that I’ll ever get married.
From what I’ve seen, women stand to gain so much more from marriage than men do…so you can see why I’m having a hard time understanding the value of marriage separate from having a family of my own.
I’d really appreciate some feedback on this. All I’m seeing right now is companionship…and eventually there’s a line in the sand that brings on the opportunity to find a new companion. Yes, it’s a rollercoaster ride, but the level of commitment we have doesn’t change the fact that we are still going to have the same ups and downs….the exact same ups and downs. When you’re married, those ups and downs seem to be multiplied ten fold.
October 2, 2008 at 9:37 am
I dare anyone to challenge this man’s point of view!
October 2, 2008 at 9:44 am
Wow, there’s a lot on your mind.
First off, I think marriage has been commercialized to a degree. It’s fed to girls at a young age as the ultimate thing that a man can do to show his commitment and love to you. However, sometimes people come together in a marriage off the high of that thought or just the desire to be coupled and seen as the cute pair who have the gorgeous kids…nice cars…wonderful home…if that’s where your mindset is…don’t get married…
To me, marriage is a vow, and ultimate sacrifice. It’s not a business transaction or a bargaining tool to propel me to a better position in life. I think two people can have a loving and committed relationship without the piece of paper and the ceremony. That’s just icing on the cake.
The same day that I was talking to my mom and other stepsister about the other sister’s current situation, we covered a lot of things and talked in detail. My mom talked about her relationship with my dad. My stepsister talked about her relationship with her high school boyfriend that continued into her early twenties before she married the man she’s with now, and another woman talked about her marriage that just went belly up. I shared my problems with serious relationships in the past. The common thread that we found…trying to change a man from who he already was…ignoring the fatal flaws and attempting to mold him into what we wanted him to be…Now I didn’t see the trying to better themselves out of any of the stories…but I saw women blinded by passion, lust, and love attempting to make a man into the fairytale that they always held on to…
There’s truth in what you say about reflecting on your own flaws and where you need to improve…I think where the good of marriage…companionship…relationships comes in is finding someone who inspires you to be better…they encourage you on your journey…and continue to build you up through the process…not just bestowing useless and empty praise on you but really understanding you and guiding you through that…when you find that person that compliments you in such a way and you really want it to be forever that’s where marriage comes in to me…
I’ve rambled…I’ve been interrupted twice during this…but I hope it makes sense…
October 2, 2008 at 9:45 am
And another thing….
Sometimes women like to take advantage of being a woman. A number of customs in America are geared towards women coming first and men being gentlemen. With that said, the reactions of others/men is usually motivated by something.
If I’m first in line at the grocery store and I’m walking up to pay for my groceries, should I stop and wait for woman trying to jump in front of me to do so?
If I’m first/ahead in line to get on a ride at Carowinds, should I let the group of women trying to jump in line because they don’t want to wait like everyone else?
I’m serious!
This morning, I get to the bus stop and no one is standing at the place where the bus stops. They are all sitting down away from where the bus stops. I get there and stand exactly where the bus is going to stop…about 2 minutes before it gets there. As soon as the bus stops, I see about 5 women walk up beside me like they are going to try to cut me off as the last person gets off the bus. Needless to say, I wasn’t having it today. One woman managed to slip by, but the next one…she was either going to get bumped or wait until after I got on.
Where is the mutual respect for other people? I mean, shoot, when I get there and the line has formed, I don’t try to jump in front of everyone, but it seems like that should have been ok for her to do. Why do I say that, because as I stepped onto the bus and walked to a seat she couldn’t help but say, “Dang, knock me down why don’t you…don’t you know ladies are supposed to go first?”
Yeah, I was a little ticked at how I’m the bad guy for following the age old customs of getting in line, waiting my turn, one at a time, and FIRST COME FIRST SERVED!
Yeah I heard her and I ignored her. She made sure I knew she was talking to me by telling me she was talking to me as I sat down.
October 2, 2008 at 9:49 am
Yes there are customs geared towards women…
Yes there are women who abuse those customs…
And usually the ones who don’t abuse them are the ones who take the grief for the ones who do.
I’m extremely independent because I have to be. It’s just me in my home. So I’ve got to know about sports, cars, and be able to handle my own with a broomstick and a bug. I’m not trying to play damsel in distress or wait for a man to come swoop me out of the arms of danger. I can handle my own. I can take care of me, my kids, and my household. At the same time there’s something to be said for a man who respects the value of a woman and a woman who respects the value of a man. It’s mutual respect.
October 2, 2008 at 9:50 am
I have stuff to share but FIRST…
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October 2, 2008 at 9:57 am
Kingston….standing up for marriage…
How can I after having one that failed…..you asked..
Snazzy your view are that of a pessimist…and though they are warranted in this day and age I can honestly say…its probably because you have yet to make that connection with a woman who allows you to see the beauty in marriage.
And many will agree with you. But marriage is not solely for the benefit of the woman. Its true we come out a little better if the marriage ends but marriage is a bond between two people and the children they decide to have. Damn I can’t really verbalize what I’m thinking.
If you enter a marriage thinking its only for her benefit then you are doomed from the get go. But if your idea of what a marriage is and what you want a marriage to be changes you will experience it from a whole nother light. If you find a woman that values the things you do…that want the things you do and realize that the two of you are now one there is no me there is no you there is only us and operate in this fashion it can last. If children are involved and the selfish self served ideas are put to rest then the unit will be that much stronger.
My marriage failed and for the first 4 years I was saying never again. But I am a bit more knowledgeable about relationships and I understand what went wrong. Two people with different agendas should not get married. If you are thinking she will end up with everything in the end don’t get married.
The whole point of marriage is to have a unit..if thats what you want….the fundamentals of marriage is love….understanding…compromise…..kindness….trust…..hardwork and love….it might sound simple but its like a good job…if you really want it you do your best to acquire it…and work like hell to keep it.
The problem is that we see co habitating as relationships these days why should I get married I can have the same thing just by having a partner and living with them…..
October 2, 2008 at 9:58 am
“they encourage you on your journey…and continue to build you up through the process…not just bestowing useless and empty praise on you but really understanding you and guiding you through that…when you find that person that compliments you in such a way and you really want it to be forever that’s where marriage comes in to me…”
I think we should be prepared for life as best we can. We don’t know what is in store for us along the journey, but anything that we can do to prepare for the ups and downs would be wise. Wouldn’t you agree?
Glad you agree. Now let’s see. We can not anticipate divorce the same day we decide to propose or get married. If so, we shouldn’t have done either. Marriage is more of a final step and more and more is becoming a point of no return. (to me)
If it is wise to be as prepared as we can for life, then why not just talk and make a pact to stay together and work through differences as opposed to signing a contract that only seems to get men in trouble if the divorce clause is ever exercised.
If the two people weren’t able to reconcile, why should it be so difficult to part ways? No one likes a nasty break up, so why set yourself up for something you know you don’t want to go through? There’s a chance that a relationship ending could be ok, but the chance that a marriage ending ok seems very slim….even though it’s legally possible.
October 2, 2008 at 10:03 am
“If it is wise to be as prepared as we can for life, then why not just talk and make a pact to stay together and work through differences as opposed to signing a contract that only seems to get men in trouble if the divorce clause is ever exercised.”
True…but sometimes we still get caught in the moment…the feeling…I think TOOOOOOOOOO much…always have…and that thought process is the reason why I’m not a divorcee today…I was engaged to my son’s father twice…two times…we never married…because even after all the be together for the child…restore the black family…have an upright standing with this church…I knew that if I married him…I’d be cheating in a few years…because I had grown since we first met…and I wasn’t the same little girl that fell for him…we didn’t grow in the same direction…sometimes we get caught up in the belief that the love will always be enough…while you have to have love…there has to be so much more…good sex will end…or be interrupted by life or illness…can you communicate…can you deal with this person’s crazy…
October 2, 2008 at 10:04 am
Snazzy…chivalry must truly be dead…..
the same way i would get up and give a pregnant or old woman a seat is the same way I want to be treated….if a man allows me to get in the line first then i look at him with big bright smile say thank you you are such a gentleman..I think the women you are coming across are just classless human beings….they do that to me even when I am getting on the bus with my 5 year old son..rush to get infront grab the first seat etc.
I am from a age where the women were very independent and I can hold my own. But I look for certain thing in a man….if you jump pass me to get on the bus PLEASE don’t try to get my number once on there cause those are things i am picky about…..I like men that are not afraid to be men it is not a competition i know my role and you should know yours…..and we will allow each other to play them….
people are judt different today….rude and unconcerned…but stay positive we are all not the way you describe.
October 2, 2008 at 10:05 am
I’m not after a co-habitant…just a companion. If I find someone that I can’t see myself living without, then I’ll consider marriage. Right now, I just can’t see it.
October 2, 2008 at 10:07 am
The same goes for a relationship. I have to be moved to want to be with someone. Just because we get along and have a good time, that doesn’t mean we will be great in a relationship. Like Kingston said, there’s connection that develops and it’s not just from spending time with someone or being physically intimate.
things just aren’t looking good… 🙂
October 2, 2008 at 10:07 am
That’s good…I don’t think you should feel bad about…I think it’s bad when we force a round peg in a square hole and try to make someone marriage material who is not…or try to turn a fling into a lasting romance…it’s good to recognize where you stand on the situation…just make sure those sentiments are echoed to the person you are dealing with and they don’t want or expect more than what you’re willing to give…
October 2, 2008 at 10:12 am
“Snazzy…chivalry must truly be dead…..”
Kingston…what exactly do you mean?
I take chivalry as courtesy towards women. If you’re looking for courtesy and expected it, don’t try to disrespect me and get it. I will sting you. If not the very first time, eventually…you’re gonna die or whatever connection/relationship we have will end.
October 2, 2008 at 10:16 am
Just like you aren’t open to communicating with someone who didn’t think enough of you to be courteous, I’m not open to displaying chivalry to someone who demands it and gets loud with me when they don’t get it.
It’s so much of a f0nking turn off!
Who wants to be taken advantage of?
October 2, 2008 at 10:18 am
I’ll be nice, chivalrous, and treat you well but there is a line that you can cross and all of that WILL go away! Because I’m capable of that….it doesn’t mean chivalry is dead. Just means you need to know how to treat people if you expect to be treated well.
October 2, 2008 at 10:20 am
Snazzy’s scorpion ways are coming out…stingin people…
October 2, 2008 at 10:24 am
why must my coworkers get me invovled in political discussions….i have a headache
October 2, 2008 at 10:24 am
You know, if we took it back to elementary school where we were first learning these things, I wonder what the teacher would say if we were getting in line to get water and a few girls tried to jump in front of the boys that were already in line?
That’s as simple as it gets.
If you think the teacher would say boys, ladies first….with a you better back up smile, she and you are both perpetuating the double standard. If you think that’s fine, you can’t really be looking for a man that’s going to stand up for himself even when the cards are heavily stacked against him.
Therefore, the guy that says…yes babe, here’s my paycheck to pay the bills with…is really what you secretly desire. Be honest with yourself. You want his money too.
October 2, 2008 at 10:27 am
And because old dude in the 3rd marriage isn’t paying bills…which means he doesn’t have any money to hand over…he no longer has a place to stay…although his wife for richer or poorer isn’t worried about whose couch she’s sleeping on and how awkward it’s going to be getting ready in the morning.
October 2, 2008 at 10:27 am
What teachers share with their students is mutual respect and treating others the way they want to be treated…I haven’t seen a teacher perpetuate that standard…I would hope they would call the girls down for pushing and tell them that’s not appropriate behavior.
October 2, 2008 at 10:30 am
i did not mean with you I just meant in general….
people are just alot more stressed and unconcern with the average joe so they forget the manners their mamas taught them.
I understand what you are saying in both cases……and yes when you find that person that makes you want to marry them then you will get married…
Try this on for change…if you find someone you think you may have a future with…date them…don’t live with them after 6 months date them get to know them like this first..then after a while propose to them and maintain that proposal for another year without living together..then maybe or not before you guys decide to make it official start staying together more not completly living as a couple but you are in each others space more and only commit to living together once married..like back in the day when you actually had to wait to get married before you start co-habitating.
October 2, 2008 at 10:33 am
Kingston…that’s how it really should be because at the point you start living together, you know you weren’t having those issues before, so it’s not the person that you’re seeing, it’s just the situation that’s affecting them moreso than the feelings they have for you.
October 2, 2008 at 10:33 am
WTF….its shouldn’t be that yes you want his money too….that is such bullshit my aunts and grandmother had relationship with men that brought the check home and gave it to them not because they want their money too but because they paid the bills…..and took care of the household……and the men understood this. He made sure he had his drinking money and his gambling money but his woman had her too…and that is what I believe in. You need a new set of standards when looking at women that is so fucking offensive and yeah if you look at it that way you probably will never find a woman that just don’t want your money
October 2, 2008 at 10:35 am
ok….didn’t ,mean to sound angry…but Snazzy are you just speculating or are you talking from experience..
October 2, 2008 at 10:39 am
if you are not paying bills it means you are not working if you are not working it means you are laying your lazy ass on the sofa and not trying….
things happen..people get fired….jobs are lost etc…but a man doing nothing is a turn off…..i will hold down the household until you are back on your feet but how long does it take for an individual to get back up……6months…1 year…2……in a marriage you cannot afford to sit on your ass….with children especially……i don’t care what you do just do it. $10 an hour is better than nothing at all…..
October 2, 2008 at 10:40 am
“that is so fucking offensive”
that emotion you feel in your gut when you thought that…that’s what I feel when I see/think someone is trying to take advantage of me.
October 2, 2008 at 10:40 am
For the record he does work…he does have money to contribute…but after all her jabs…he just stopped…figured if she was already pulling him down…why should he help make things better…he felt he was unappreciated…
October 2, 2008 at 10:41 am
Point blank period…avoid those who are out to gain as a result of what you have and not who you are….RUN FOR THE HILLS
October 2, 2008 at 10:44 am
ok….I will stop….cause I think I am reawakening anger…thats lingering deep deep down inside….Snazzy its not personal but you know what if you think a woman is out to get you for whatever you have then leave her don’t start a relationship with her….just be alone with you and what you have……but not all of us are out for what you can do…some of us still just want love…companionship, kindness, security and love…..
October 2, 2008 at 10:48 am
Totally unrelated to the curent battle of the sexes…Jazmine Sullivan’s cd is FIYAH…my new favorite song…Bust The Windows Out Your Car…hmmmm….maybe that is related…carry on…
Sander for Preside ’08
October 2, 2008 at 10:48 am
President….not Preside
October 2, 2008 at 10:49 am
Ki he should have left cause no one deserves that…that is what I mean by agendas….I want financial securtiy but will i choose that over love….no because I believe everyone has potential…if i met you 2 years ago making 8 dollars and hour and 2years later thats still the case then its a problem. I believe in growth…growth in everything..and maybe she should have stepped back look at what she was doing to him and reevaluate herself…sometimes we put others down not because of what they are doing or lacking but because of something we hate in ourselves….something about ourself that we are not comfortable with.
I use to tell my husband you know what….do something anything……it doesn’t matter that you have a college degree in Civil and Environmental engineering……that means nothing whats important is that your wife and your children see you trying to provide…see you being a man…thats what it really boils down to….A man representing himself as a man….
October 2, 2008 at 10:50 am
who is Sander…
October 2, 2008 at 10:52 am
and I will shut up now…for real this time….
October 2, 2008 at 10:53 am
It’s from the link FB posted earlier…it’s a joke…
I agree…I’m not all into my man has to make more than me…I’m okay as long as I see you putting forth an effort…the moment sit back and wait for me to provide you and not attempt to take of yourself or our family…that’s a problem…no one deserves to be taken advantage of…
October 2, 2008 at 11:05 am
I think I’m going to simmer down on my own. Just doesn’t help when I have a crappy start to my day.
October 2, 2008 at 11:17 am
on a lighter note…..i was reading yesterdays blog….
JinJin and FB had me cracking up…
“where does that leave me”…lol
October 2, 2008 at 11:18 am
good morning everyone…Snazzy thanks for being honest you make some very good points and I think everyone here from what I’ve read above desires the same thing …we all would like marriage to be a permanent thing – dedication to your spouse in both the ups and the downs…to balance each other…ideally everyone wants this …
Kingston hits a great point which actually sums up what happened to my marriage…we met, thought we had the same values, wants, desires and goals or at least it seemed similar….what I didn’t know until we were pretty near the end was that my husband had befriended someone who knew me very very well and knew what I wanted and needed in my life …he proceeded to be that man…yes, there were hints that he was not – things would slip now and then but I took them as “one to grow on”…as we have to adapt to our partners…didn’t realize they were actually signs of the “true” him dying to come out that he would snap back into position when he realized I was catching on…not totally his fault though why?
Like Ki said above “the fairytale”…I was a little girl who fell for the fairytale…it was embedded in me as my parents and grandparents all epitomized relationships of the dutiful wife and the husband ruled, it worked for us as we did tons as a family and our extended family was cherished as well and the children all participated in activities, travelled, were educated and well-rounded…however, there were hints that this fairytale wasn’t working that we didn’t really truly see as little girls …thus, we believed then that this was the way it should be – you go to college, get a good job, get married and have children….then reality sets in …you start dating and realize its a little more complicated than just I like or love you…
So yes, expecting a fairytale relationship sets you up for failure and sometimes your knight in shining armor lets you down and you’re crestfallen, your entire world is crashed…In my experience my bubble was burst long before I met my ex-husband by my first love…actually I was dealing with getting over that love when I met my ex husband and he was a breath of fresh air…we were friends first (I thought we were totally honest at least I was)…he called my mom and told her he was going to marry me (mind you he had been engaged in college)…she like me was like “you’re nuts!” so much so that I told him…let’s see how this goes before we even talk about any other level…let’s enjoy each other and see what happens…a yr later he re-visited it…honestly very few made a yr with me at the time as I didn’t have a high tolerance for BS – or so I thought…he basically did everything you would expect a good boyfriend to do – I think in his heart he was being as truthful to me as he was to himself…he used his knowledge of my past (which he didn’t know from me) combined with what he learned from me to be who he thought I needed rather than who he was….Thus, once we got married we realized certain male roles that he filled before he no longer thought it necessary to fill as he didn’t really seem to like them much….another clue I missed is I’m close to my family and thought he was close to his as we did things with his family as well…what I didn’t realize was that his brother and I tended to push these outings NOT HIM…he made the statement “we’re going to get married and I’m gonna take you away from the stress of your family”…sounded somehow like he was being protective, caring then…but he was dead serious…so when we moved away and I visited home – he didn’t always want to come not even to see his family & he ended up telling me about his resentment of me going years later in a fit of rage as one of the reasons why he didn’t care what I did….
Mainly our problems were communication and honesty…. he did not communicate well – he held things in and no matter how much I asked or pleaded for his input, decision making help or opinion – he refused then he resented me for it…on my part, after reviewing the situation I realize that he took my questions as annoying, nagging rather than trying to save our dying relationship and trying to understand him – so he zoned out and ignored me – yes J whatever you want J to death… communication to me on both sides at all times is key…you may have to step away calm down and then address an issue but you need to do so in a timely manner not years after the situation keeps repeating itself and you allow it by not speaking up…
Snazzy to answer your issue about money and women getting more out of divorce…not necessarily true…some of us could care less about money in respect to a marriage…when you are hurt you react in different ways some reach out and figure I’ll ruin him by taking all he can give – HE MUST FEEL THIS TOO cause I’m hurt…others like me say just do whatever let’s split everything in the house fairly…split the current bills in half and that’s it…just need a little bit to get me on my feet for a few months and take care of your daughter thus, I got help until I found a job for me…and I worked my butt off to find a job in one month so basically alimony was ONE MONTH…that’s it…then he contributed to his daughter’s upbringing…I took care of the rest…this is me as honestly I didn’t want him to ever be able to say something liike what you said above…a relationship, the pain cannot be labelled by dollar amounts it does not heal anyone…and yes, a lot of people hav eto learn that…
With that said – I would get married again but I would get to know the person a lot better I ask more relevant, relationship building, character questions now…i open up and discuss more now and I encourage my partners to do the same…yes, sometimes I still get excited and leap head first into something only to feel crushed (old habits and fairytales die hard) but I do see this and try to avoid it…as knowing is half the battle …and everyone wants happiness in the end…but MARRIAGE is a beautiful thing – the sharing, the companionship, having someone who really truly KNOWS you is the best feeling in the world, when you’re sick, when you’re well, or just knows you’re upset by the tone of your voice…its comfortable, its passionate and it can be beautiful but what most don’t realize or admit is it is work and you have to be mutually committed to it like you would your career…otherwise it will not work….
Sorry for the length…just wanted to show how sometimes you miss the signs…
October 2, 2008 at 11:24 am
Snazzy don’t let anyone “steal your sunshine”…we all have to explore deep within ourselves and find out who we are before we can even begin to recognize the type of companion we want in our lives…there’s no time limit on it…our society has placed way too much pressure on relationships…its crammed down our throats from birth….be you love you and then you can love someone else….I’ve seen scenes like what you said happened at the bus stop and you’re right some people do go too far…but like someone above said they’re classless so they’re not on your level anyway…you just have to do what you know to be right…be the proud, polite, respectful man your mom raised …don’t let societies failures determine your path…each relationship is very different and you’ll never know until you try what your experience will be like..many things I didn’t think I’d ever do or say both right and wrong have both astonished and enlightened me depending on the stage of life that i’m in…as you grow you assess things differently and you do gain wisdom…its a constant growth process…enjoy it don’t let societies failures make you jaded….they’re not YOU…
October 2, 2008 at 11:29 am
ok ok guess my essays made everyone leave lol
October 2, 2008 at 11:46 am
thank you all
October 2, 2008 at 11:51 am
we care about you snazzy and we all go through it…we all question life, things …hell, that’s how we grow & none of us are experts on relationships or we’d make millions….hope you know that…
October 2, 2008 at 12:03 pm
JinJin with the essays…..lol….but well put well said…
October 2, 2008 at 12:04 pm
i know seems like everyone disappeared…my bad…lol…
October 2, 2008 at 12:06 pm
Didn’t you know…Jin is strong….one drink and it shuts everything down…. 🙂
We were drowned
October 2, 2008 at 12:15 pm
LMAO in other words I just talk too much lol….missed you though Snazzy…leave it to you to get the debate going…that was good …how’s the job/interview process going? any updates?
October 2, 2008 at 12:16 pm
I need to write some fiction books already with all these thoughts, characters, experiences and ideas in my darn head…
October 2, 2008 at 12:21 pm
Purdue asked for references and said they would be in touch soon.
The Greenville company is continuing their search.
Blue Cross Blue Shield…waiting to hear back from the recruiter.
Since then I’ve applied to 2 jobs where I am now and debating another at UNC Chapel Hill
October 2, 2008 at 12:23 pm
good as those are all great companies hope something good comes through soon….
October 2, 2008 at 12:41 pm
I’m not worried. Something will change for the better, in the next couple of months.
October 2, 2008 at 12:53 pm
that’s the spirit…I feel the same…my budget has been tighter than spandex on a thick person lately! lolzz
October 2, 2008 at 1:05 pm
Yeah, I see definites…I’m trying to make one of them the better reality.
October 2, 2008 at 1:12 pm
which one do you prefer so far
October 2, 2008 at 1:28 pm
The ideal situation would be to get a raise for my current job.
The next best thing would be another job here that also comes with an increase in pay.
Then, a job in Greenville.
– Columbia
– Out of State
October 2, 2008 at 1:32 pm
true it’s always ideal to get more pay where you are so that you have the time in…but being open to moving definitely broadens your options…
where on earth is everyone? all on lunch??? lol
October 2, 2008 at 1:34 pm
at times this feels like those old western movies ….one or two lone cowboy(s) on a street and that eerie whistle (toododododooooo) just before all hell breaks loose …lol
October 2, 2008 at 1:36 pm
shaaa-waaa
October 2, 2008 at 1:36 pm
This Prince cut is particulary fitting given the current economic conditions we’re facing, and the War that’s been raging…Over oil…Remember this?
Money Don’t Matter Tonight lyrics
One more card and it’s 22
Unlucky for him again
He never had respect for money it’s true
That’s why he never wins
That’s why he never ever has enough
To treat his lady right
He just pushes her away in a huff
And says ‘Money don’t matter tonight’
Money don’t matter tonight
It sure didn’t matter yesterday
Just when you think you’ve got more than enough
That’s when it all up and flies away
That’s when you find out that you’re better off
Makin’ sure your soul’s alright
Cuz money didn’t matter yesterday,
And it sure don’t matter tonight
Look, here’s a cool investment
They’re tellin’ him he just can’t lose
So he goes off and tries to find a partner
But all he finds are users (users)
All he finds are snakes in every color
Every nationality and size
Seems like the only thing he can do
Is just roll his eyes, and say that…
Money don’t matter tonight (don’t matter)
It sure didn’t matter yesterday
Just when you think you’ve got more than enough
That’s when it all up and flies away
That’s when you find out that you’re better off
Makin’ sure your soul’s alright (soul’s alright)
Cuz money didn’t matter yesterday, (don’t matter)
And it sure don’t matter tonight
(Ooh-wee-ooh, don’t matter)
(It don’t matter tonight, no)
Hey now, maybe we can find a good reason
To send a child off to war
So what if we’re controllin’ all the oil,
Is it worth a child dying for? (Is it worth it?)
If long life is what we all live for
Then long life will come to pass
Anything is better than the picture of the child
In a cloud of gas
And you think you got it bad
Money don’t matter tonight (no, don’t matter)
It sure didn’t matter yesterday (yesterday)
Just when you think you’ve got more than enough
That’s when it all up and flies away (flies away, flies away)
That’s when you find out that you’re better off
Makin’ sure your soul’s alright (make certain that your soul’s alright)
Cuz money didn’t matter yesterday,
… it sure don’t matter tonight
Money don’t matter tonight
It sure didn’t matter yesterday (yesterday, yesterday)
Just when you think you’ve got more than enough
That’s when it all up and flies away (flies away, flies away)
That’s when you find out that you’re better off
Makin’ sure your soul’s alright
Money didn’t matter yesterday,
And it sure don’t matter to night
October 2, 2008 at 1:38 pm
I’m selling a 12-year old child, almost 13.
He’s generally a good boy, but of late has decided to lie about turning in homework. He’ll make you believe that he’s getting all A’s, but in fact he’s got a couple of C’s and almost got a D. You find this out when you call his teachers, because two minutes before you’re leaving to go to work, he announces “Mom, I haven’t been completely honest with you about school…..” and makes you sign something sent from his teachers that let you know they’ve left voicemail messages for you. (somehow those get deleted)
He’s lovable, intelligent, funny and cute, although evidently a fixer-upper. Note: he does NOT come with a PSP, a computer, any video games and may arrive a little jaundiced after not seeing any sunlight for several weeks.
Negotiable on price.
October 2, 2008 at 1:39 pm
how about “Black Steel In The Hour of Chaos” by PE? where is everybody?
October 2, 2008 at 1:39 pm
aw shucks let me find out Prince is a prophet…won’t be the first singer who was….Marvin Gaye’s “what’s goin’ on”…would fit right in about now too…
October 2, 2008 at 1:40 pm
Clever little guy
October 2, 2008 at 1:41 pm
haha now why you have to bring size into it….that’s a load of talent in a small package that’s all…
October 2, 2008 at 1:43 pm
FB welcome to my world…remember the homework that got turned in…FALSE…found out yesterday…had to pray to maintain the calm voice…I am so ready for 12 to be over…now I understand why my friend gave her son a bottle of lotion at this age to work out the kinks…
October 2, 2008 at 1:44 pm
Ki, does 13 REALLY look any more appealing?
October 2, 2008 at 1:46 pm
I just (really) saw the bottle of lotion comment, lol
October 2, 2008 at 1:46 pm
Not really…I’m just ready for a new set of issues…this lying thing sucks…especially after we talked and I’m like I’ve been asking you for twenty minutes to tell the truth and you continued to lie…
October 2, 2008 at 1:49 pm
Yep, gigantic bottle of lotion and told him to name his five fingers after girls and they could be his girlfriends…if it meant she wouldn’t have to kill him…
October 2, 2008 at 1:54 pm
ok what the shiznick are you two talkin’ about..feel like we came in on the tail end of your convo…Ki? FB?
October 2, 2008 at 1:55 pm
The lying thing is something I’m not entirely ready for, although I SHOULD be since I seemed to enjoy lying so much when I was a teenager.
I’m not ready to walk in on him spankin’ it either though. Lol…and it concerns me that he won’t be as careful or discreet about it since he’s obviously a bumblehead.
October 2, 2008 at 1:56 pm
oh missed an entry…darn FB …sorry sounds like punishment city….let him feel the consequences …then maybe he’ll get it straight….any ideas why he didn’t bother to be bothered to do it ??? lol…ok no laughing matter but did you get anything out of him besides “i don’t know” or “didn’t feel like it”…that lying thing is so annoying especially since MOST of the time we FIND out or Figure it out….ugh
October 2, 2008 at 1:59 pm
Jin, I’m definitely going to try to get to the root of it tonight. I mean, I LITERALLY found out about this morning on my way out to work, car keys in hand.
I’ve already stripped him of priviledges, that only took 3 seconds….but oh yeah, we’re gonna have a talk.
October 2, 2008 at 2:00 pm
oh no …not a good way to start the day…sorry….and on your bday wknd…who’s he staying with while you’re gone?
October 2, 2008 at 2:08 pm
That’s the way I feel…like what’s the logic…and I know they’re pre-teen boys…there is absolutely no logic…it went out the window…his logic I didn’t want you to be mad…so you’ll nearly fail a class instead of just being honest…insanity…and it’s just this one class…he’s picture perfect for every other teacher…I am not ready…
J handed over his cell phone without asking…I told him he might as well pack up the playstation and games too and no football game this Friday night…next up…I guess I’ll go sit in the back of the class for a couple of days…maybe utter embarassment will shock him into reality…
October 2, 2008 at 2:08 pm
His dad’ll take him…..and THAT won’t be much fun for him either!
October 2, 2008 at 2:09 pm
lol……at bottle of lotion and naming 5 fingers girls he like…
my 11 going on 12 has 2 reprimands for doing stupid shit..like peeling off name tag from desk…making squeling noises…..he has one more to go before he gets the foot up the ass!!! or a plane ticket to florida so his dad can deal with that ass…I told him one more stupid note about stupid things and video games are gone for the rest of the school year..
October 2, 2008 at 2:13 pm
lol wow …maybe boys are as bad as girls…everyone I know always says they’re easier….I mean honestly most of this stuff could be a lot worse…but I can bet its annoying nonetheless…I know lying drives me utterly insane….Ki, I’m with the embarassment punishment he may NEVER do anything wrong again…but at least his turning over the phone means he understands there are consequences for his actions….
One idea though – do you think its the particular teachers or subject that they don’t respect or dislike so they rebel in their class? just a thought
October 2, 2008 at 2:14 pm
“J handed over his cell phone without asking”
Yeah see?? When I told my son he was DONE having any kind of fun for a while, he just said “I know.”, like yeah yeah, same ol’ same ol’.
I feel like….taking him to get electric shock therapy or something! Wake the fk up kid!!
October 2, 2008 at 2:20 pm
Dame told me that thats how boys are…they know they will be punished at some point they just make up their minds to deal with the punishment……ok my phone will be gone for 2 weeks…no video for a month…they will survive cause they know in the end things will go back to the way they were…
my son do things and when its time to hear my mouth you hear yes mammy…no mammy…ok mammy and 1 month later back to the same shit……
October 2, 2008 at 2:24 pm
Boys are Really like that with their mothers….My mother is no pushover but I was never afraid of her….It always sounded like she was just “yapping” when she would get on me….I was deathly afraid of my daddy though.
October 2, 2008 at 2:26 pm
I think some teachers are uptight about shit too…the classroom is not really a fair environment for boys…More male teachers are needed…The LAST person who can relate to an adolescent male is an adult female…A lot of teachers get bent out of shape over nonsense..>Granted, boys can’t just act like monkeys and expect that to be okay, but they are NOT going to behave like girls…At ANY point in life….
October 2, 2008 at 2:27 pm
I really think there’s a disconnect with the teacher…but I told him that’s no excuse…his behavior…gives her more reason to act a fool as well…
Oh hush Macio…it’s the truth…I have to turn into Linda Blair for him to not think I’m just yapping…one do he laughed when I was fussing…I thought I was going to kill him…I was like…No you do not think I’m playing do you?
October 2, 2008 at 2:30 pm
I hate to admit it, but I have had to keep myself from laughing when my mama was yelling at me too…MANY times…sometimes she would catch me about to snicker, and she would try to keep HERSELF from laughing, so she might just throw a punch or a shoe, depending on the range…It’s just different…Not really disrespect, just…I don’t know…You just look at mama different, especially after a certain age…
October 2, 2008 at 2:31 pm
kingston, I think he’s absolutely right…..same for you, Macio.
I fully expect to hear “I know” tonight when I get home.
The lies though….I’m really upset about. Just to recap:
1) When asked about his mid-term progress report: “They don’t send those home anymore unless they’re bad”. Me: Oh, ok. (duhhhh) His teacher actually gasped this morning when I told her he said that
2) “Well, I mostly have A’s but I MIGHT get a B” (with a frown). Part of me wants to make him go back to elementary school and sit in a kindergarten class so that he fully grasps the difference between a B and a D.
3) “7th grade is easier than 6th” —-oh really? I’m sure it IS when you don’t DO anything…
October 2, 2008 at 2:32 pm
Seperation of the sexes in the classroom is a great idea up until High School at least…
October 2, 2008 at 2:32 pm
He loves his Social Studies/History class…it’s a male teacher…and he has an A…same amount of reading…work…just enjoys it…because they fuss about football and sports as well as classwork…his English teacher (problem class)…she resorts to kindergarten techniques…raising your hand for permission to the restroom…waiting in line for a turn…just silliness…still do your homework…they’re the easiest grades in the world to get…there’s no need not to do it…
October 2, 2008 at 2:33 pm
my son starts tearing up but mammy the teacher won’t listen to me….my reponse the teacher is not your mother she doesn’t have to listen to you especially if she doesn’t believe what you are saying…keep your ass still and quiet and you won’t be the first offender….I’m looking at him like are you crazy…..these teachers don’t have time to baby any of you bad ass kids….
October 2, 2008 at 2:34 pm
Langston Charter Middle School does that…and they have some of the best test scores in the state….
Macio…I throw shoes…sometimes I laugh…when I catch him laughing at me…and I just walk away…I just want to pinch him…heathen…
October 2, 2008 at 2:34 pm
That little man should run for office! He was tempering expectations, soing a little pre-showdown spin…lol..The frown added for dramatic effect??? WOW…Seriously, all you have to do is let him know you’re on to him now, because he obviously had you pegged as somewhat of a sucker until now…so…he was just getting away with what he thought he could get away with…I WAS this kid..
October 2, 2008 at 2:38 pm
I know…Ki…It’s just something that happens…She may start mispronouncing words, or accuse me of something totally unrelated to what she was originally fussing about…ie: “That’s why ya little brother ain’t potty trained now, you makin’ these D’s!” WTF? I couldn’t help it…and she would realize the ridiculous nature of what she said, and she would have to hold it in too….And say “You make me SICK” between her teeth, and leave before it became a full laugh….She is silly like me though…oh well….You are all level headed women, raising normal boys from what I can tell…..Don’t worry if you don’t understand WHY they do what they do….You’re not supposed to…
October 2, 2008 at 2:39 pm
That’s what I mean Ki…Women/Girls are more rigid in their studies it seems…routine…Boys have a hard time sitting still…concentrating….
October 2, 2008 at 2:40 pm
Yeah Macio…..I’m afraid it runs deeper than I assumed it could.
My mother always wanted me to have a terror-child and so far he’s given me reason to gloat….but now I’m thinking this is the beginning of something I’m not ready for.
October 2, 2008 at 2:40 pm
“the Force is strong with this one”
October 2, 2008 at 2:43 pm
I just don’t want to adjust my opinion of him, the trust I have in him, all that stuff.
October 2, 2008 at 2:45 pm
You don’t have to adjust your opinion of him….He told a few lies…I would be worried if he were a little perfect George Washington Cherry Tree Chopping Honest Abe all the time to be honest..What he has done is proven to you that he is NORMAL…
Wow I’m full of BS! I should be a defense attorney
October 2, 2008 at 2:48 pm
I knoowww. Part of my problem now is that I was blindsided and I’m sitting here at work not dealing with it. I’ll be alright tonight.
October 2, 2008 at 2:52 pm
On a lighter note, I’ve had 4 people already tell me they’ll vote for me for Prez!
My platform includes mandatory siestas at work, beach homes for all Americans (that I think are cool), and I will appropriate funds to research the tongue-box I told y’all about a while back.
October 2, 2008 at 2:57 pm
Anybody still here? Been home all day with a sick kid…whazzzup! Whats todays discussion no energy to do a read through.
I looooove Jeezy’s new cd, its very political…its a sit and listen cd.
October 2, 2008 at 3:02 pm
Oh well, guess I missed the party…
October 2, 2008 at 3:04 pm
Yeah the party’s over but we saved you some cake.
October 2, 2008 at 3:04 pm
jeezy is whats wrong with america…i hate that ignant mother father
October 2, 2008 at 3:12 pm
Young Jeezy? The epitome of Coon? I have Got to hear this…I have never heard ANYONE glorify drug dealing like him….Snoman tees for the KIDS! Maybe he found Jesus
October 2, 2008 at 3:13 pm
hope your kid feels better but please try to keep the sickness in the midwest..us in the northeast can’t handle it…
October 2, 2008 at 3:13 pm
Dope Boy Fresh…Dope Boys Go Crazy…IJeezy Da Snoman…t’s cocaine madness…
October 2, 2008 at 3:14 pm
or he found the antichrist who taught him who to trick us to not believe he’s the devil
October 2, 2008 at 3:17 pm
I’m starting to join the Chorus that says there are certain looks that a man over 25 should let go…You shouldn’t look like a teenager at 25
October 2, 2008 at 3:18 pm
i wouldn’t date a 25 year old woman who dressed like a 17yr old
October 2, 2008 at 3:19 pm
Mace I have a request for you…
October 2, 2008 at 3:20 pm
no indescent proposals
October 2, 2008 at 3:21 pm
or any age above 30
October 2, 2008 at 3:21 pm
just a simple request
October 2, 2008 at 3:22 pm
hello hello did i scare you away? damn i said it wasn’t indescent….
October 2, 2008 at 3:23 pm
Good day everybody. I agree with Pro love the Jeezy CD lol don’t agree with everything he says but i like it anyway.
October 2, 2008 at 3:23 pm
chicken
October 2, 2008 at 3:24 pm
hi Jh…..i guess its just you and me..yellowman
October 2, 2008 at 3:25 pm
im high off lowfat free milk and raisin bran cereal…don’t mind me…plus will won’t answer to my request cause he’s a coward..
October 2, 2008 at 3:26 pm
frig it willie you suck and JH you suck more…..
October 2, 2008 at 3:27 pm
what’s the request?
October 2, 2008 at 3:28 pm
LOS ANGELES – A photographer who called 911 to report Heather Locklear allegedly driving erratically runs a paparazzi agency and profited from images she took of the actress’s subsequent arrest, the woman’s attorney said Wednesday.
But Nicholas Tepper, who represents photographer Jill Ishkanian, said in a written statement Wednesday that her phone call to authorities was motivated by “civic duty” and a concern for Locklear’s safety.
He also defended Ishkanian’s right to then take photos of the arrest.
“The fact she witnessed Ms. Locklear’s erratic driving and reported it to the police did not mean she was disqualified from reporting the story, which she in fact did,” Tepper wrote.
He said Ishkanian then sold the photos to celebrity gossip site TMZ for $27,000 — but did it through a third party, KM Press Group, because her standing in the industry has been damaged by a lawsuit against her former employer, US Weekly.
In its postings this week, TMZ questioned whether Ishkanian was “up to no good” and claimed she alerted fellow paparazzi to Locklear’s impending arrest. TMZ head Harvey Levin said Wednesday that the owner of KM Press Group has repeatedly told him that one of the agency’s photographers snapped the photos and that Ishkanian called to tip him off to Locklear’s arrest.
Tepper said Ishkanian had been visiting family and friends in the Montecito area when she spotted Locklear’s car driving erratically Saturday afternoon, called 911 and was advised by a CHP dispatcher to stop following the car.
But Levin said some of the pictures appear to be taken well before Locklear’s arrest, and questioned Tepper’s contention that Ishkanian just happened to run into her acting erratically at a market. At least one of the photos shows Locklear coming out of a shop.
Tepper initially said Ishkanian took all the photos after phoning authorities. But when pressed about the image of Locklear appearing to leave a store, he said he wasn’t sure about the sequence that the photos were taken in, only that Ishkanian shot them all.
Levin said he did not consider the photos tainted. “Ultimately, these are photographs of an arrest.”
The California Highway Patrol, which would not confirm the identity of the 911 caller, said she didn’t identify that the driver was Locklear, but said the actress appeared “drunk” in a market. The CHP said in a news release that Locklear showed “obvious impairment,” but alcohol has been ruled out.
Santa Barbara County prosecutors will have to decide whether to pursue charges after test results are returned that could show whether Locklear was under the influence of other substances.
CHP Lt. Dane Lobb said Wednesday that Ishkanian’s involvement would not change what was going forward as a regular DUI investigation. “We determined (Locklear) was someone who shouldn’t be operating a vehicle,” he said.
Locklear’s attorney, Blair Berk, did not return an e-mail message seeking comment Wednesday evening.
Tepper later said in an interview that Ishkanian also provided authorities with a statement and would testify against Locklear if necessary. He said Ishkanian sold the photos without disclosing that she was the shooter because of her $55 million lawsuit against US Weekly; that suit claims the magazine’s employees damaged her career by accusing her of stealing information from company computers.
Federal agents later raided Ishkanian’s home and business, but she has never been arrested or charged. Her lawsuit seeks damages for emotional distress, libel, slander, and conspiracy.
Tepper said Wednesday the US Weekly lawsuit has limited her business, claiming others in the industry refuse to use her material. The magazine is appealing a judge’s ruling that refused to dismiss several of Ishkanian’s claims.
US Weekly said through a spokesman Wednesday night that it had no comment.
After leaving the magazine, Ishkanian helped form Sunset Photo and News, a paparazzi and celebrity reporting agency.
October 2, 2008 at 3:29 pm
never mind you took all the fun out of it with your delayed response
October 2, 2008 at 3:29 pm
@Kingston — for your info strickly a licker and a sticker over here
October 2, 2008 at 3:35 pm
licker…sticker…sucker same difference…add liar…cause you admitted to being a sucker in previous blogs
October 2, 2008 at 3:39 pm
guys what you do if you got a woman pregnant who had no children didn’t want any children…you are childless too….
would you
a. leave her
b. respectg her choice to choose
c. write her name and the story print it in the daily paper
d. vote for McCain/Palin because they would put an end to the whole its my choice dilema
October 2, 2008 at 3:42 pm
what would you tell the guy or girl if they were your friends?
What would you if someone you know is getting abusedd physically and mentally?
How would you advise that person if they left but now want to go back because they don’t want to start over?
October 2, 2008 at 3:44 pm
ladies its not just a guy question I want to hear everyone’ sopinion on both topics…..if yall are still here..
October 2, 2008 at 3:44 pm
Anybody still home…
October 2, 2008 at 3:45 pm
you are high Michelle…You are rambling like Sarah Palin…what is this gibberish? what the hell are you trying to get at
October 2, 2008 at 3:49 pm
e. sit down and have a rational discussion like two adults about the options in front of us…come to some agreemetn that we both could deal with…
October 2, 2008 at 3:49 pm
if you had a friend in the situation above…no kids…both parties….guy wants kids..she doesn’t are too much for them…gets pregnant….decides not to keep it…what you do if it happened to you or what advice would you offer either of them?
the abuse …..she leaves wants to go back…do you say ok…or do you ask her what the hell is wrong with her…
October 2, 2008 at 3:51 pm
As far as the abuse…I’ve been in that situation with one of my close friends…and we always tried to talk to her…get her to see her own worth and the relationship was harmful to her…she’s still in the relationship…we do not discuss those issues…because I’m not going to say told you so…she sees it…just feels like…there’s no one else out there for her and she doesn’t want to be alone…
October 2, 2008 at 3:55 pm
Yeah…its hard when it your friends and you love them..anyone else you can just walk away and say dumb ass…..but doesn’t it put a strain on the friendship?
October 2, 2008 at 3:58 pm
im out……yall have a good evening
October 2, 2008 at 3:59 pm
On the first question its always her choice but I would voice my opinion as to wether i wanted a child or not.
On the abuse the first time I’m supportive if she goes back to the abuse she’s on her own.
October 2, 2008 at 4:03 pm
It’s hard…I’ve known this person for a long time and no I can’t turn my back on her but at the same time if she recognizes what the continuous abuse is doing to her, why do I have to continue to point it out…
October 2, 2008 at 4:07 pm
Never listed to the 1st cd, but I do like the 2nd one…I’m late, you all show up when I leave punks..
Merry x-mas
October 2, 2008 at 4:10 pm
Quit talking trash Cayenne Peppa…
October 2, 2008 at 4:12 pm
Did you check out my xmas present?
October 2, 2008 at 4:14 pm
I am so mad at you for that…I couldn’t even make it past 45 seconds
October 2, 2008 at 4:16 pm
what?!! You didn’t get to see the other friend join in? lmao
October 2, 2008 at 4:18 pm
There’s a friend…NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
October 2, 2008 at 4:19 pm
I’m feeling dehydrated and NOT in a good way.
Wish I could watch Pro’s video. I’m sure it’s nothing less than disturbing!
October 2, 2008 at 4:21 pm
I was going to email it to you guys, give Macio an early father day present.
October 2, 2008 at 4:24 pm
Pro…I made this one for you:
http://www.tsgnet.com/pres.php?id=370743&altf=Txffucbeb99&altl=Qspupuzqf-Dijdbxpoxpo
The back tattoo at the end is hilarious on this one…
October 2, 2008 at 4:29 pm
http://www.tsgnet.com/pres.php?id=370743&altf=Lj&altl=Mjdjpvt
October 2, 2008 at 4:29 pm
lmao..that was too funny!!
October 2, 2008 at 4:31 pm
I love it…..I emailed my manager and everyone in my region with it this morning —
The subject line said “Priorities”
Good morning everyone,
I just wanted to let you know that soon, it’s possible that I may need to make a career change. New priorities have emerged, and I have included a link to a video to help clarify and explain my situation.
Please click here http://www.tsgnet.com/pres.php?id=370743&altf=Disjtujof&altl=Tboefs
I thank you in advance for your support…..
October 2, 2008 at 4:33 pm
Ki-Licious for Prez
I want to make one that says “Your Mama”….just to see that lady’s back tattoo
Your Mama ’08!!
October 2, 2008 at 4:35 pm
Or These Nuts!!!
October 2, 2008 at 4:36 pm
lol or
My Dick!
October 2, 2008 at 4:39 pm
Suck My D…
Okay…that was so vulgar…sorry
October 2, 2008 at 4:40 pm
I’m not ending my day on here with the word “dick”.
October 2, 2008 at 4:43 pm
I need to think of a pretty word……can’t go out on “dick”
October 2, 2008 at 4:44 pm
Ok you guys are hilarious as usual
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY GROWN MEN SHOULD NEVER EVER WEAR DOO RAGS IN PUBLIC…and GROWN WOMEN SHOULD NEVER WEAR PAJAMAS OR UNDERWEAR IN PUBLIC oh did I forget HEADTIES eeeyuck…my pet peeves…
Saw a guy on the train, nice shoes, well dressed, well -groomed, reading a paper, just observing what a nice AW HELL DOO RAG…totally disgusted…people that should be STRICTLY SLEEPWEAR or hidden under a cap and I mean hidden for functional purposes only…can’t take it and he was going to work no less
October 2, 2008 at 4:48 pm
How about periwinkle…that’s a nice word FB…
no grown mean should not be outside in a Doo Rag…
October 2, 2008 at 4:54 pm
Kingston’s questions – (give me kudos for trying to keep my answers/essays short lol)
1) Pregnancy – ok at this point I’m not getting pregnant for anyone that it wasn’t planned with and like before he’d have to marry me before the thought even comes into my head…and this one will have to be a keeper….
But in general, I think it totally depends on how sincere the woman was with the man involved -did he know if she was or was not on birth control? were they honest with each other about their situations…I mean it’s just gotten to the point that anyone having sex needs to discuss certain things like WHAT WOULD HAPPEN IF…that way you’re prepared …unfortunately this is easier said than done…
2) ABUSE – During childhood I witnessed way too many cases of abuse in relationships to the point where one couple near and dear to my heart fought regularly almost like we had an event and could have sold tickets…as the eldest i kept the kids in the corner so they didn’t see nor hear too much but I saw it all…its intolerable…thus, I have NO TOLERATION for abuse…NONE….If I drive by and see you roughin’ up your chick on the street I’m calling the cops and keepin’ it moving unless I notice you’re both laughing…if it’s a close friend (which it has been) I’m coming through and best believe I’m talking till you understand that its not a game and if I know the guy he’s getting an earful too…I’ll support any rehab you need…just don’t touch people I LOVE or care about…if it’s family I’m even worse…in a family of mostly women, I’m not below giving you a threat and as the most outgoing fun-loving carefree eldest cousin when my temper flares….everyone clears the way cause they think I’ve gone mad…had to do that once and that man never touched my cuz again or they both kept us from ever knowing …it’s not a game, people get seriously hurt and kids are not STUPID…i recall vividly to this day an argument/tussle that my parents had when I was FIVE…and yes, it affects you!
FRIG IT another essay !
October 2, 2008 at 4:54 pm
I’m going home…good night everyone!
My final word for the day is “chanticleer”, a pretty word also. It’s a synonym for rooster, or cock.
October 2, 2008 at 4:55 pm
Stay calm and be firm FB …let the force be with you…all the mommies of Yadig are behind yuh!